Keep Calm and Mom On!

Keep Calm and Mom On!

By Esperanza DeLaLuz

I am just a mom.” 

When I hear someone say that, I want to proclaim: You’re doing the most important job on earth!! Raising healthy, happy, productive children deserves more than the lowly phrase, “I am just a mom.” 

Abraham Lincoln, our great president, said, “All that I am, or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.”

Not everyone knows that the angel mother to whom he refers is actually his stepmother. His birth mother died when he was nine and, the following year, his father remarried. Sarah had children of her own, yet she was a loving and devoted mother to all of the children, and she especially nurtured Abraham in his desire to learn and read. 

This is a comforting thought to those of us who are stepmothers, aunts, foster moms, and grandmothers, or who are in other positions of nurturing. The task of mothering is not only the province of those who give birth. To “mother”—which is defined as “to look after kindly and protectively”—is incredibly demanding, and just as incredibly—and critically—important. To mother is a noble task and those who participate in it, to any extent, are doing a great and valuable work.

However, in the midst of diapers, tantrums, mischief, and defiance, it may be a challenge to feel that one is engaged in a noble task. Often it feels like we are in “survival mode.” Roseann Barr once joked that if her children were alive at the end of the day, she had done her job as a mother. 

I know for every mother there are days which feel like that. On those days, it can help to remember Abraham Lincoln’s feelings about his “angel mother,” and recognize that someday it may be your influence that sways the world. 

The next time you are deciding whether to scrub the crayon mural off the wall or frame it, remember Sarah Bush Johnston Lincoln, keep calm and mother on!

 

Jaden Westover

Jaden Westover

Jaden Westover

Jaden Westover

Jaden is loving, caring, loyal, and family driven. She graduated from BYU in Special Education and taught for 4 years. In 2017, she married the love of her life, and they welcomed their first daughter a year later. Twin girls arrived in 2020!

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Jane Hughes

Jane Hughes

Jane Hughes

Jane Hughes

Jane Maurer Lano Hughes, born February 5, 1921 in Bowling Green, Ohio and died February 25, 2000 in Indianapolis, Indiana while in the care of her only daughter, Tami. Also the mother of a son, Terry, who joined the Navy — likely inspired by his mother’s service in the Nave W.A.V.E.S. during World War II. She used her G.I. bill to get her pilot’s license.  She was a happy woman even though her life included trials. She was widowed young while her children were still under three years old. She remarried but that marriage ended in divorce. She had a wooden spoon collection that her children and grandchildren would add to from their world travels. She loved children and was a nanny in her retirement. Jane loved her country and would get a tear in her eye when she saw the flag. She loved Scrabble and April Fool’s Day! Grandmother to seven, four girls and three boys. They were so proud of her when she quit smoking “cold turkey” after fifty years. Sadly, the habit still contributed to her passing several years later as emphysema and a heart attack took her life. They remember her fondly especially when singing hymns that she loved!

Jane Hughes - Newspaper Clip

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Susan Barnes

Susan Barnes

Susan Barnes

Susan Barnes

Susan Barnes is mother to three children, two sons and a daughter, grandmother to sixteen children (8 girls and 8 boys) and great grandmother to one boy (though everyone thought she was GREAT even before he was born!) She was born and raised in California, and saw some hardships (including the death of her mother when Susan was only 5) that shaped her desire to join the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints when she was 17, which teaches that Families are Forever! At age 19 she met and married Frank and has thoroughly loved motherhood and grandmotherhood. She volunteered as PTA president while her children were in school. Later, she volunteered at Pioneer Valley Hospital Gift Shop for almost two decades, including serving as president of the volunteers! She was a “second mother” to many missionaries as she and Frank housed them in their home (so they have only had a few “empty nest” years!). Now, she volunteers in the temple. She enjoys reading, watching sports and the Hallmark channel, gardening, and spending time with her family. 

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Edna Lichfield Barnes

Edna Lichfield Barnes

Edna Lichfield Barnes

Edna Lichfield Barnes

Born October 9, 1923 in Ogden, Utah. She was the daughter of Joseph Eugene and Susanna Parker Lichfield. Edna was raised in Ogden. She attended Weber College for two years and graduated from the University of Utah in 1951 with a degree in Education. She served an LDS mission to the Southern States in 1946-48.

Edna met her eternal companion Robert “Bud” Barnes at the University of Utah Institute of Religion. They were married in the Salt Lake Temple, September 7, 1949. She was the proud mother of four children: Frank, Jim, Roger and Susie.

She was an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and held many positions of leadership and responsibility including President of the Monument Park 15th Ward Relief Society. She loved the gospel and those she served. Edna volunteered in many community organizations. She was one of the founding members of the Festival of Trees.

Edna enjoyed people, travel, learning, tennis, golf, being fit and the outdoors. She was a loving wife, mother and grandmother and will be dearly missed by her family. “Her children arise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.” (Proverbs 31:28) The children would like to thank and honor their father for the constant love, care and devotion he gave our mother.

Edna was a grandmother to twenty, and great-grandmother of five when she passed away November 5, 2003 at age 80, after suffering from Alzheimer’s disease for 25 years.

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