Financial stability is a goal we must continually keep in our sights. Even if we attain it once, it is a bit like the horizon, always out there for us to keep working towards, recommitting to the principles that keep us on the path. Like footsteps one after another, here are three steps that we just keep repeating anytime we receive income and must decide upon the outgo:

• Pay it forward first (donations to causes you deem worthy! Tithing and generosity affect more than our wallets — our very character)
• Pay your future self (savings),
• Pay stores: for needs first, then wants. SPEND WISELY.

Be willing to sacrifice for the sake of stability. Realize that peace of mind is priceless.

Knowing that you can pay for the flat tire,  stitches or broken window brings peace that you know you can pay for the expense without touching your monthly budget.

Develop the attitude that less really can be more. Simplify! Embrace the concept of ENOUGH.  

Work together to make things work: Value ALL the work necessary to make a family successful, whether or not it brings in financial income. 

When  A child is learning they may attempt to put the round block in the square hole, or the square block in the triangle hole.  They may become frustrated and believe it won’t work.  As they observe you putting the right block in the right hole they desire to model after you.   They try and try until they begin to recognize and understand the shape matches the hole it fits into.  We too believe things won’t work until our perspective becomes clearer.  As we learn from others we too can see more clearly how that budgeting is like fitting the right piece in the right place.  It too can work for us.

Pay God first (tithing).

A common phrase we all have maybe thought or heard from others “ I can not afford it”  “There is not enough money”  

As you do your best to make ends meet sometimes it doesn’t seem to be enough.  Many people go year to year living paycheck to paycheck.  When writing your budget many times the total ends with a negative balance. .  You are not alone and this is a very common lifestyle for many.

It has taken me many years to change my understanding of how to manage the outgo of our family finance. 

 We are right when we pay the bills first that leaves nothing left for God.  

We think about our temporal needs first.  We need shelter, food and clothes so that goes to the top of our list.  No one wants to go hungry, naked or be out in the cold.  So it is natural to rationalize why that would be our first expenses. 

When we take a step back and recognize that our source of temporal needs come from the earth.  Who created the earth?  Who provided the means to have food at our table, Clothes to be made from the earth also from animals and our homes are made from the very earth substance to provide our shelter.  Our creator made all things possible through all he has blessed this earth with.  

I would like to use the example in the personal finances self reliance manual page.41( The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints)

In our possession we have sand, a big rock, pebbles and a glass jar.

If we took the empty jar and filled it with sand half way then tried to place in it the bigger rock and a few pebbles we would find it difficult to fit it all in the jar.  This is the most common way we arrange our budget

But what if we put the bigger rock first and the pebbles then poured in the sand you will find that everything could fit in the jar. 

As we take into account that all we have comes from God.  He knows our needs before we do and he will provide us with the means as we put him first into our lives.  Spiritual and Temporal.

Let us Rearrange our financial priorities – Put God first by listing him at the top of your budget giving back to him.10 percent 

Take the Challenge and Put God first.  

Example:

• Income: 1000
• Rent – $300
• Utilities – $150
• Groceries- $200
• Dentist-CC $150
• Clothes-CC $100
• Car Repairs- $50
• Gas- $50
• Total- $1,000

Example:

• Income- $1,000
• Tithing- $100
• Save- $100
• Rent $300
• Utilities- $150
• Groceries $200
• Gas- $50
• Car- $100

Take a look at the second budget:  we have an added line for Save. Paying yourself is like adding the pebbles in the jar.   You allocate that toward expenses ahead.  Doctor visits, vacations, surprises that you don’t expect.  It is less of a stress when you are prepared than wondering where it will come from.  Also if you don’t have a car payment set the car money aside for car repairs, oil changes and insurance.  

Being Prepared is best.

After learning about paying God and paying ourselves we became more financially self sufficient.

We set up various accounts: 

 Hsa if your job offers it.  Takes out money before taxes and is allocated for health care expenses.  

Car Expenses – Insurance, repairs, tires, also new car if needed

Family Vacation – Trips, outings, family time

Home Expense – The unexpected expenses, Utilities, insurance, 

Create accounts that meet your needs. 

After you access your needs, pay them next and make sure you are spending your income wisely.  

Rent, Utilities, food, gas and clothing when setting up your budget.  Make sure you keep to your needs.  Wants will fall into place later when your savings allow for such purchases. 

IF we do not take the time to pay ourselves we start feeling left out and when an emotional roller coaster comes we make rash decisions.  One is eating out when stressed, shopping spree and other impulse buying.  If you have your budget allocated with a purpose. This can help you spend wisely the income you worked so hard to get. 

Our family has a list of places to go where it is free.  Hiking in the mountains, bike riding trails around the city, Parks, and Taking walks in the neighborhood.

Libraries can be fun places to visit. Also 

Budgets come in all shapes and sizes.  What works for one person will not especially work for another. We also find that our life situations change. We add children that increase the needs and as they grow older and leave the home your budget needs may decrease.   You also may have medical needs (Mental, Physical) So what Budget is right for you?  As we explore a variety of styles of budget remember that it takes time to achieve the desired results. 

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Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.

Today’s tip is a book report. I’m going to share with you an older book called The Complete Tightwad gazette. The author is named Amy Decision. That’s how you pronounce it like the word decision, but it’s spelled DACYZCYN (and we have a link to purchase it on amazon on our affiliate page!) So many of the principles are timeless that you’ll barely notice that it’s a classic from the 90s.

Amy has lived such a thrifty life, so she has a wealth of information to share, and she has fun sharing it — her writing is witty and inviting. 

Sometimes the subject of saving (not spending) can come across as depressing, and requiring rigorous self discipline. In Amy’s book, however, economizing is an adventure! She’s guiding us on a pursuit to find creative and ingenious ways to combat how expensive life is. We feel like celebrating every time she helps us figure out how to pinch those pennies.

Amy is also primarily a mom, so it definitely feels like everything applies to our current profession: there are birthday party ideas, insights on how to grocery shop effectively and go garage saleing; she covers, fixing up the house from decor to repairs. There are recipes and even instructions on how to make up your own recipes. Traveling often seems out of the question for those of us on a strict budget, but she even addresses this topic in a way that opens the way. She even teaches us how to save TIME, since, after all: Time is money.

 And that’s why Momivate shares our tips in just two minutes, so that you have time left to practice what we preach! 

Read Amy’s book, Mama, then share if this elevates your mothering!

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