Inspirational Quote (Gratitude)
“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie
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“Eat Food, Mostly Plants, Not too Much”
By Alana Hutchins
Have you ever wondered to yourself, What should I eat to be healthy? High-protein or low-protein? Low-fat dairy or whole milk or paleo? Whole grains or gluten free? Fruit or no fruit? High-fat or low fat? There are innumerable voices out there claiming different and even opposite messages, but the good news is, a lot of the basic diets have some common sense similarities. Michael Pollan claims, “the authority of tradition and common sense” to help us navigate this strange new eating world that has made a once simple activity into an entire field of scientific study and a multibillion dollar industry.
We live in a bleak landscape of SAD- the Standard American Diet. The SAD is generally characterized by high intakes of red meat, processed meat, pre-packaged foods, butter, candy and sweets, fried foods, refined grains, high-fructose corn syrup, high-sugar drinks, and low intakes of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, grass-fed animal products, fish, nuts, and seeds.
If you want to live your best and most healthful life, start to look at what God has already given you- whole plant foods. The more a food is broken down into different components and reconstructed for taste and shelf life, the less of a food it becomes and the more of a food approximation or an “edible food-like substance.” Forget the lotions and potions, powders and shakes- that’s not food, those are simply food products. If it has more than five ingredients or you don’t recognize the words in the ingredient list, then chances are, it was developed by a food scientist and not a farmer. Most of what we are consuming today is not food, and how we’re consuming it — in the car, in front of the TV, and increasingly alone — is not really eating. Many of these food facsimiles come packaged with health claims which should be our first clue they are anything but healthy.
In the so-called Western diet, food has been replaced by single nutrients, and common sense by confusion. The professionalism of nutrition, or “nutritionism”, for the past fifty years has made America anything but healthier, quite the opposite. Americans are sicker and fatter than ever. This belief system assumes that the key to understanding food is the single nutrient, disregarding the fact that natural foods are a symphony of complex compounds and chemicals that science has yet to all discover, never mind understand how they act in concert with one another. Layer on top of that the complexities of a traditional diet, and trying to sell health as a single macronutrient (think “High-Protein) is laughable.
The real food, the food your great grandmother would recognize as food, sits quietly on the perimeter of the grocery stores, with its naturally bright coloring and unassuming packaging. I can hear you saying now, but what about protein shakes and power bars- those are healthy right? “Good” for you food is a spectrum and a power bar might be better than a bag of chips, but your safest bet is nuts and a piece of whole fruit as a healthy go-to snack.
In other words, try to eat a Whole Foods, Plant based diet. Think beans, legumes, fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Potatoes with the skins on, lentil curry, fresh salads with olive oil and vinegar, hummus with crudités. No more counting calories, or grams, or desperately trying to remember the difference between Omega-3 and Omega-6 fatty acids. Vitamin supplements just turn into expensive urine and they are in NO WAY a substitute for fruits and vegetables. Consuming a diet rich in whole plant foods is the best way to avoid chronic diseases in the future including diabetes, obesity, heart disease, cancer and even autoimmune diseases. Eating does not have to be complicated, simple is usually best, but it will take more time to plan ahead and prepare than just grabbing a Cliff bar or downing an energy shake. A landmark study known as the China Project, combined with laboratory findings—conclusively demonstrated the dangers of a diet high in animal protein and the amazing health benefits of a whole food, plant-based diet. You say, yeah I’d like to be healthy but I’m not going vegan, that’s just too hard! Life can get crazy, so if you are hitting your whole-foods plant-based diet 80-90% of the time, you are doing awesome and keep up the good work! You will receive 80-90% of the benefits.
You might also say, yeah but I still have baby weight I want to lose and all the sources I read say to eat a diet low in “carbs” and high in protein. Isn’t losing weight healthy? This approach to weight loss, based on the ketogenic effect, or keto diets for short, involves cutting way back on carbohydrates, to 50 grams a day or less, to help the body achieve a state of ketosis, in which it has to burn fat (rather than sugar) for energy. This diet, like most diets, does work to help control weight gain and even induce weight loss in the short term, but it is hard to stick with long term. Most people will regain a lot of the weight they lost as soon as they go back on carbs. It is an issue with any fad diet, but it seems to be extra common with ketosis. Stop looking at short term effects rather than your long term goals of remaining healthy over a life span and look twenty years down the road to a life free of heart-disease and cancer. There are other dangerous side effects that can come from approaching the keto diet the wrong way including fatigue, decreased performance, head-aches, diarrhea, and even halitosis (bad breath.) Think of meat as a side dish or garnish, rather than the principal component of the meal.
When you are in the supermarket try to avoid food products containing ingredients that are unfamiliar, unpronounceable, more than five in number, or include high-fructose corn syrup. For that matter, all diets out there pretty much agree that sugars, including corn syrup and high-fructose corn syrup, are unnecessary foods and should be reduced as much as possible or eliminated completely.
Unfortunately there is one fairly obvious problem with all this advice: Americans don’t primarily eat food that comes in a box with a long list of “health claims” because we actually think it is healthier than a home-cooked meal. We do so because it is convenient, often cheaper, and we are addicted to high-fructose corn syrup, salt, and saturated fat laced in almost every food product. There is no silver bullet for changing our lifestyles and improving our health. It takes commitment, a dedication of monetary resources, hard work, and a certain amount of self-denial. On the upside though, measure that against reclaiming the pleasures of eating real foods, becoming your healthiest and most energetic self, and taking control of your own table.
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SOURCES CITED:
- In Defense of Food by Michael Pollan, 2008
- The China Study by T. Colin Campbell and his son, Thomas M. Campbell II, 2004
What if Book Club wasn’t really about the Books?
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Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.
I. LOVE. MY. BOOK. CLUB.
More accurately, I love the women who attend the club.
I do enjoy reading books and discussing them — it’s a great challenge for my brain to
1. Manage my time effectively to the point where I can fit in reading a book a month
2. Pay close enough attention to what I am reading so I can share some thoughts about it
However, when it comes right down to it, I would get together with these women even if it were a knitting club.
Admittedly, knitting is also a challenge for my brain.
My overall point of this, though, is how grateful I am for these women. They are busy moms. Yet they take time out to bless my life by sharing their thoughts, their wisdom, their talents.
Ya see, it’s a multi-faceted book club — we actually spend the first hour or so doing things not related to the book. We eat — it’s ALWAYS a potluck. We share each other’s good news — as well as our challenges. And THEN we discuss the book — solid discussions, with lots of insights and applications to our lives.
It’s like an intellectual challenge wrapped up in a hug!
I cherish my time with these women, whose wise words come home with me and help me in my efforts as a mom.
Momivate has a goal to offer something similar to each of you! We hope to start small groups of 8-10 moms who gather regularly to SMILE together (SMILE is an acronym for Support, Music, Inspiration, Laughter, and Education). If you’d like to help us start this program, sign up on the website to become a Momivator!
We need one another, Mamas! We need to SMILE more often and more purposefully. Let’s work together to get this program up and going, then share if this practice elevates your mothering!
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Staying Motivated through the Mundane
By Stephanie Simmons
Taking care of the home can be pretty mundane. I really do like a clean home. I also go in a continuous cycle of being on top of my game to ignoring the mess and hoping everyone else does too. There are many valid reasons and excuses to not keep our houses clean. And there are definitely different seasons in life that might affect the attention our home gets(some examples: rough pregnancy, emotional state not being taken care of, illness, etc).
For those seasons that are not the exception, how do we stay motivated through the mundane? I think firstly, we need to recognize that we are doing better than we think! Give yourself credit for the things you are doing! We are often too hard on ourselves.
Secondly, your home is not a museum, it is a home. This was told to me by my husband many years ago when my 3rd child was starting to get around. It seemed that as I was cleaning, she would go around and undo the work I was doing, and I seemed to care more about a clean house than spending time with my kids. I was getting frustrated and perhaps a little overwhelmed. Probably after a rant of frustration or something, he told me, “It’s ok to have some mess in the house. We don’t live in a museum; this is a home.” That has really stuck with me and helped me many times as I lose focus and start caring more about a clean home than the people in the home.
I can remember a time when I was reflecting on how annoying and mundane it was to have to keep doing the same housework day after day, and week after week. It was hard to find the motivation to want to do my chores. At some point in my ruminations, I thought, maybe if I change the way I view what I am doing, it won’t be so bad. I thought to view the housework as service to my family. I like to serve others. In fact, cleaning another’s home was always more enjoyable than cleaning my own. I also like to remind myself that I love how the end results make me feel when I have a clean home. And one last thing I try to focus on is that it is actually a little therapeutic getting lost in my thoughts, or listening to an audio book or talk, while I clean. Even talking on the phone to a family member or friend really helps the mundane chore get done in an enjoyable way.
As my kids have gotten older and have been able to contribute more, and I have had to train them and motivate them, they get a little lecture about “family contributions.” This wording comes from a parenting book I read by the Eyre family. It helped us see that everyone in the family contributes. We have our dad who contributes by going into work and brings in money for our home. We take care of the home to earn our part and our income, or payment, is in the form of clothes, food, home, etc. My lecture would include pointing out the things they do and need that require work to make happen(you eat, so you need clean dishes and food, and there is a mess from using them, cost to buying the food, etc).
When it comes to caring for our homes(formerly called doing chores;) ), remember, you are doing a great job! Your home is for living in, focus on the positive, and enlist your children in the family contributions. Our homes can be a clean home to help us live happily in!
Tips for helping kick-start your cleaning:
- Just tell yourself, I will just fold 5 pieces of laundry, or I will wash/load just 5 dishes. It’s a small start that isn’t as intimidating as all the piles, and once you start, you usually will keep going. If you don’t keep going, just tell yourself the same thing again 🙂
- Create a weekly schedule for your housework. Some people want to do it all in one day, but I prefer to break it out into days. If I happen to miss a day, it is ok if that bathroom is skipped one week; it will be cleaned the next week, just stick with the next day’s work(except laundry, see next tip)
- Scheduling laundry: I have a set day for each person’s laundry and other types of laundry(towels, sheets, rags, etc). I try to keep my kids’ wardrobes on the small side, about 8-10 outfits per kid. Their laundry is done separately from everyone else, so there is no need for sorting. The set day also helps so that there are not mountains of laundry to face in one day, but smaller “bite-sized” loads to do each day.
- Train your children well to do age-appropriate household chores. It is hard work up front, but worth it!
(I could go on and on about my house schedule for chores, but that is for another time. And there are so many different ways to make this all happen. Find what works for you.)
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Want to Learn How to Love Learning?
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Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.
I’m a little jealous of my children — the fact that they get to spend the majority of their time learning. I wish LEARNING was on my to-do list — I genuinely enjoy discovering facts and building skills.
Oddly, children seem to have a built-in aversion to didactic learning. Oh, they’ll learn all day long if you don’t TELL them that they’re learning. If they’re the ones asking the questions, their brainy appetite is insatiable. But once it’s an assignment, once someone else wants them to go learn such-and-so, for whatever reason, that makes it an oppressive chore.
The fact is, though, that learning is an element of childhood in the way oxygen is an element of water. I think their struggle comes from their innate desire to be in control of what they’re learning. The tricky part is that learning HOW to learn is a subject in and of itself — arguably far more valuable, than memorizing lists of facts.
Of course, our gray matter is programmed to learn from day one — no one has to teach a baby to learn how to walk. The baby is just wired to eventually get up off its knees, practice balancing, and one day, almost without thinking, those first steps are taken.
When you aren’t a baby any longer, though, that automated learning mode gets complicated with too many (or too few) options, countless distractions, and that awful human-nature state of laziness…
And so the motivational games begin… to encourage learning, embellish it, give incentives for it, exemplify it, all with the hope that they’ll embrace learning and love it for life!
Mom, in what ways can you give your children a love of learning? Do you verbalize how grateful you are for a good education? Do you take advantage of opportunities to learn even when you aren’t required to? Create a family culture that includes efforts to satiate curiosity! Then share if this practice elevates your mothering!
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