“Eat Food, Mostly Plants, Not too Much”

“Eat Food, Mostly Plants, Not too Much”

By Alana Hutchins

Have you ever wondered to yourself, What should I eat to be healthy? High-protein or low-protein? Low-fat dairy or whole milk or paleo? Whole grains or gluten free? Fruit or no fruit? High-fat or low fat? There are innumerable voices out there claiming different and even opposite messages, but the good news is, a lot of the basic diets have some common sense similarities. Michael Pollan claims, “the authority of tradition and common sense” to help us navigate this strange new eating world that has made a once simple activity into an entire field of scientific study and a multibillion dollar industry. 

We live in a bleak landscape of SAD- the Standard American Diet. The SAD is generally characterized by high intakes of red meat, processed meat, pre-packaged foods, butter, candy and sweets, fried foods, refined grains, high-fructose corn syrup, high-sugar drinks, and low intakes of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, grass-fed animal products, fish, nuts, and seeds. 

If you want to live your best and most healthful life, start to look at what God has already given you- whole plant foods. The more a food is broken down into different components and reconstructed for taste and shelf life, the less of a food it becomes and the more of a food approximation or an “edible food-like substance.” Forget the lotions and potions, powders and shakes- that’s not food, those are simply food products. If it has more than five ingredients or you don’t recognize the words in the ingredient list, then chances are, it was developed by a food scientist and not a farmer. Most of what we are consuming today is not food, and how we’re consuming it — in the car, in front of the TV, and increasingly alone — is not really eating. Many of these food facsimiles come packaged with health claims which should be our first clue they are anything but healthy.

In the so-called Western diet, food has been replaced by single nutrients, and common sense by confusion. The professionalism of nutrition, or “nutritionism”, for the past fifty years has made America anything but healthier, quite the opposite. Americans are sicker and fatter than ever. This belief system assumes that the key to understanding food is the single nutrient, disregarding the fact that natural foods are a symphony of complex compounds and chemicals that science has yet to all discover, never mind understand how they act in concert with one another. Layer on top of that the complexities of a traditional diet, and trying to sell health as a single macronutrient (think “High-Protein) is laughable. 

The real food, the food your great grandmother would recognize as food, sits quietly on the perimeter of the grocery stores, with its naturally bright coloring and unassuming packaging. I can hear you saying now, but what about protein shakes and power bars- those are healthy right? “Good” for you food is a spectrum and a power bar might be better than a bag of chips, but your safest bet is nuts and a piece of whole fruit as a healthy go-to snack. 

In other words, try to eat a Whole Foods, Plant based diet. Think beans, legumes, fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Potatoes with the skins on, lentil curry, fresh salads with olive oil and vinegar, hummus with crudités. No more counting calories, or grams, or desperately trying to remember the difference between Omega-3 and Omega-6 fatty acids. Vitamin supplements just turn into expensive urine and they are in NO WAY a substitute for fruits and vegetables. Consuming a diet rich in whole plant foods is the best way to avoid chronic diseases in the future including diabetes, obesity, heart disease, cancer and even autoimmune diseases. Eating does not have to be complicated, simple is usually best, but it will take more time to plan ahead and prepare than just grabbing a Cliff bar or downing an energy shake. A landmark study known as the China Project, combined with laboratory findings—conclusively demonstrated the dangers of a diet high in animal protein and the amazing health benefits of a whole food, plant-based diet. You say, yeah I’d like to be healthy but I’m not going vegan, that’s just too hard! Life can get crazy, so if you are hitting your whole-foods plant-based diet 80-90% of the time, you are doing awesome and keep up the good work! You will receive 80-90% of the benefits.

You might also say, yeah but I still have baby weight I want to lose and all the sources I read say to eat a diet low in “carbs” and high in protein. Isn’t losing weight healthy? This approach to weight loss, based on the ketogenic effect, or keto diets for short, involves cutting way back on carbohydrates, to 50 grams a day or less, to help the body achieve a state of ketosis, in which it has to burn fat (rather than sugar) for energy. This diet, like most diets, does work to help control weight gain and even induce weight loss in the short term, but it is hard to stick with long term. Most people will regain a lot of the weight they lost as soon as they go back on carbs. It is an issue with any fad diet, but it seems to be extra common with ketosis. Stop looking at short term effects rather than your long term goals of remaining healthy over a life span and look twenty years down the road to a life free of heart-disease and cancer. There are other dangerous side effects that can come from approaching the keto diet the wrong way including fatigue, decreased performance, head-aches, diarrhea, and even halitosis (bad breath.) Think of meat as a side dish or garnish, rather than the principal component of the meal. 

When you are in the supermarket try to avoid food products containing ingredients that are unfamiliar, unpronounceable, more than five in number, or include high-fructose corn syrup. For that matter, all diets out there pretty much agree that sugars, including corn syrup and high-fructose corn syrup, are unnecessary foods and should be reduced as much as possible or eliminated completely. 

Unfortunately there is one fairly obvious problem with all this advice: Americans don’t primarily eat food that comes in a box with a long list of “health claims” because we actually think it is healthier than a home-cooked meal. We do so because it is convenient, often cheaper, and we are addicted to high-fructose corn syrup, salt, and saturated fat laced in almost every food product. There is no silver bullet for changing our lifestyles and improving our health. It takes commitment, a dedication of monetary resources, hard work, and a certain amount of self-denial. On the upside though, measure that against reclaiming the pleasures of eating real foods, becoming your healthiest and most energetic self, and taking control of your own table.

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SOURCES CITED:

  • In Defense of Food by Michael Pollan, 2008
  • The China Study by T. Colin Campbell and his son, Thomas M. Campbell II, 2004
Can we get away with never doing chores again?

Can we get away with never doing chores again?

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Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.

I confess: I hate the word “chores.” I’ll bet most people do. It’s just filled with drudgery that weighs you down the moment you think it. Ugh. 

And so, in our house, we try really hard never to do chores. Instead, we take FLYLady‘s advice and we “Bless Our Home.” 

We have gone through various chore charts and systems — what I’ve figured out is, no system works unless I do! 

Yup, that’s MY job as the mom, is to execute whatever system is posted on the fridge at the moment. I have to be the one to rally the troops… 

On regular weekdays, I aim for Sloppy Success rather than Perfect Failure… got that one from Hannah Keeley).  I leave the “be thorough” expectation for Saturday’s BIG Bless Our Home.

I try to set a good example for my kiddos by whistlin’ while I work — although, really, I can’t whistle, so instead I make up silly songs about whatever chore, errr, whatever way I’m blessing the house at the moment. Imagine what kinds of silly rhymes I have to come up with for “garbage” or “dishwasher?” 

Recently, I created a parody of the Beauty and the Beast song “Be Our Guest” replacing those words with “Bless Our Home!”

Of course, there are times when I can’t bring myself to sing, maybe I’m just having a low energy day or I’m a little overwhelmed by the repetition and magnitude of the task of keeping a home even just somewhat tidy. I usually can still manage to ward off the grumpiness by turning my voice robotic. We all would love to have a robot do our chores, right?! 

Fellow Mom, are you willing to give up chores and try “Blessing Your Home” this week, maybe even singing as you go? Then share if this practice elevates your mothering!

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TWO SIDES OF THE SAME COIN

TWO SIDES OF THE SAME COIN

Financial stability is a goal we must continually keep in our sights. Even if we attain it once, it is a bit like the horizon, always out there for us to keep working towards, recommitting to the principles that keep us on the path. Like footsteps one after another, here are three steps that we just keep repeating anytime we receive income and must decide upon the outgo:

  • Pay it forward first (donations to causes you deem worthy! Tithing and generosity affect more than our wallets — our very character)
  • Pay your future self (savings),
  • Pay stores: for needs first, then wants. SPEND WISELY.

Be willing to sacrifice for the sake of stability. Realize that peace of mind is priceless.

Knowing that you can pay for the flat tire,  stitches or broken window brings peace that you know you can pay for the expense without touching your monthly budget.

Develop the attitude that less really can be more. Simplify! Embrace the concept of ENOUGH.  

Work together to make things work: Value ALL the work necessary to make a family successful, whether or not it brings in financial income. 

When  A child is learning they may attempt to put the round block in the square hole, or the square block in the triangle hole.  They may become frustrated and believe it won’t work.  As they observe you putting the right block in the right hole they desire to model after you.   They try and try until they begin to recognize and understand the shape matches the hole it fits into.  We too believe things won’t work until our perspective becomes clearer.  As we learn from others we too can see more clearly how that budgeting is like fitting the right piece in the right place.  It too can work for us.

Pay God first (tithing).

A common phrase we all have maybe thought or heard from others “ I can not afford it”  “There is not enough money”  

As you do your best to make ends meet sometimes it doesn’t seem to be enough.  Many people go year to year living paycheck to paycheck.  When writing your budget many times the total ends with a negative balance. .  You are not alone and this is a very common lifestyle for many.

It has taken me many years to change my understanding of how to manage the outgo of our family finance. 

 We are right when we pay the bills first that leaves nothing left for God.  

We think about our temporal needs first.  We need shelter, food and clothes so that goes to the top of our list.  No one wants to go hungry, naked or be out in the cold.  So it is natural to rationalize why that would be our first expenses. 

When we take a step back and recognize that our source of temporal needs come from the earth.  Who created the earth?  Who provided the means to have food at our table, Clothes to be made from the earth also from animals and our homes are made from the very earth substance to provide our shelter.  Our creator made all things possible through all he has blessed this earth with.  

I would like to use the example in the personal finances self reliance manual page.41( The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints)

In our possession we have sand, a big rock, pebbles and a glass jar.

If we took the empty jar and filled it with sand half way then tried to place in it the bigger rock and a few pebbles we would find it difficult to fit it all in the jar.  This is the most common way we arrange our budget

But what if we put the bigger rock first and the pebbles then poured in the sand you will find that everything could fit in the jar. 

As we take into account that all we have comes from God.  He knows our needs before we do and he will provide us with the means as we put him first into our lives.  Spiritual and Temporal.

Let us Rearrange our financial priorities – Put God first by listing him at the top of your budget giving back to him.10 percent 

Take the Challenge and Put God first.  

Example:

  • Income: 1000
  • Rent – $300
  • Utilities $150
  • Groceries- $200
  • Dentist-CC $150
  • Clothes-CC $100
  • Car Repairs- $50
  • Gas- $50
  • Total- $1,000

Example:

  • Income- $1,000
  • Tithing- $100
  • Save- $100
  • Rent $300
  • Utilities- $150
  • Groceries $200
  • Gas- $50
  • Car- $100

Take a look at the second budget:  we have an added line for Save. Paying yourself is like adding the pebbles in the jar.   You allocate that toward expenses ahead.  Doctor visits, vacations, surprises that you don’t expect.  It is less of a stress when you are prepared than wondering where it will come from.  Also if you don’t have a car payment set the car money aside for car repairs, oil changes and insurance.  

Being Prepared is best.

After learning about paying God and paying ourselves we became more financially self sufficient.

We set up various accounts: 

 Hsa if your job offers it.  Takes out money before taxes and is allocated for health care expenses.  

Car Expenses – Insurance, repairs, tires, also new car if needed

Family Vacation – Trips, outings, family time

Home Expense – The unexpected expenses, Utilities, insurance, 

 

Create accounts that meet your needs. 

After you access your needs, pay them next and make sure you are spending your income wisely.  

Rent, Utilities, food, gas and clothing when setting up your budget.  Make sure you keep to your needs.  Wants will fall into place later when your savings allow for such purchases. 

IF we do not take the time to pay ourselves we start feeling left out and when an emotional roller coaster comes we make rash decisions.  One is eating out when stressed, shopping spree and other impulse buying.  If you have your budget allocated with a purpose. This can help you spend wisely the income you worked so hard to get. 

Our family has a list of places to go where it is free.  Hiking in the mountains, bike riding trails around the city, Parks, and Taking walks in the neighborhood.

Libraries can be fun places to visit. Also 

Budgets come in all shapes and sizes.  What works for one person will not especially work for another. We also find that our life situations change. We add children that increase the needs and as they grow older and leave the home your budget needs may decrease.   You also may have medical needs (Mental, Physical) So what Budget is right for you?  As we explore a variety of styles of budget remember that it takes time to achieve the desired results. 

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Tips to Survive & Thrive – For Mothers of Newborns

Tips to Survive & Thrive – For Mothers of Newborns

By Annette T. Durfee

You have waited and waited AND (have I mentioned?) WAITED for this day!  Nine months – give or take –  and now, couldn’t you just stare hour after hour, at this little bundle of joy?   Can you even believe it?  Your thoughts have centered around this little one almost every minute of every day.  And – phew! After discovering why it’s called “labor!”  the baby has (FINALLY) arrived!  Way to go Mom! 

Having crossed the finish line, you now experience the newfound joy of cradling your baby in your arms versus your tummy! The sheer wonder of a new life placed in your arms fills you with anticipation of your life together. Caressing that sweet downy soft head. Kissing each tender tiny toe and marveling as you trace those little eyes, nose, lips, ears, which you longed to see.  Those mini-fingers wrapping their adorable frailty and dependence around your soul. 

Wonder and joy sit side by side with the exact opposite – nagging feelings of exhaustion, inexperience, frustration. The discomforts of pregnancy are now replaced by new ones: Cesarean or episiotomy wounds. Baby blues. Tired… SO tired. As much as we want to enjoy this experience into Mommyhood, we instantly realize that it isn’t going to be a piece of cake!

So please remember to be kind to yourself.

You are a walking miracle maker and now is the time to take good care of you. A time to heal. A time to take it easy. A time to be good to that number one Mommy. 

Survival mode –  Just as you finish doing the dishes and laundry, another load is calling your name. How is it possible to keep up with the many demands on your time and energy?  Remember that at these times, you and your baby’s needs come first. It is clearly time for Survival mode.  We’re talking basics here.  The goal is not to have a spotless house, but to “love on” your children.  If I can get the dishes tidied up once a day, a batch of laundry running, and maybe even a garbage taken out, I feel accomplished. Or better yet, use paper plates and cups. Save the environment later, when you have more time and energy!

Savor the moment – As with each stage in the life of children, I have found over and over again that with a new baby, there are both really hard things and really beautiful things – things that will never happen again: The sound of the newborn cry, the darling startle reflex, peeling skin, the smell of their neck nestled into yours, their first bath, their tiny toes.  You may want to jot down notes about firsts, funny things they do, milestones, and your feelings.  Capture the moment with frequent snapshots. There will be plenty of time for scrapbooking later if that’s a priority for you, but for now, just share them with friends and family so you can rejoice together!

Sleep – You know the saying, “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!”  Sister, it’s so true!  The whole world looks like a friendlier place when you are rested. So toss out all the old important TO DOs on your list.  Now is the time for a new list, and loving yourself enough to get some sleep is at the top of that list.  If there is a choice between getting something done and getting some sleep, choose sleep.  I know that this is not easily accomplished.  So, for starters, sleep when the baby sleeps. Yes, this is harder to do once you have more than one child, so don’t be shy in asking for help from a friend or family member.  Also, with a little know-how and practice, you can train your child to sleep.  They’re going to have to learn how to do it on their own sometime anyway.  Don’t be that mom that wished she had learned about sleep sooner, but alas, she was too tired!  Two excellent resources on this topic are: Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth, M.D., and The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley.

Time away – Let’s face it – Sometimes being a mom is just plain lonely.  You spend many quiet hours, even in the middle of the night, rocking, feeding, cuddling, soothing.  All good things, right?  But the overall effect can be draining if you don’t get a little time for yourself.  Remember that as much as you love your baby, it is good to “baby” yourself sometimes, Mama!  What does that look like?  A weekly date night!  Time with a friend on the phone or in person.  An hour or two for personal time to shower, read, relax, or even take a nap.  A walk around the block for a little fresh air and movement.  Mommy is a person too and someone has to take time to “mother” her. So schedule in a little time for yourself each day.  Think of it as a time to rejuvenate rather than a selfish action, because dear, it is anything but selfish. You will come back energized and excited to spread a little love and sunshine in your children’s lives.  And besides that, you are worth it!

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Wisdom From Experienced Mothers

Wisdom From Experienced Mothers

By Samantha Allred

I have a problem with the typical narrative of motherhood. The one that tells us that everything will come so easily and effortlessly. The reality of parenthood is that it is difficult. It is often easy to doubt our abilities when it comes to making parenting decisions. We need to remember that we are not alone in these feelings of inadequacy. Hearing from other like-minded mothers who have had similar experiences can alleviate those feelings of inadequacy and provide a renewed sense of hope in the face of difficult circumstances. Below is a list of advice from experienced mothers to mothers who may be struggling with certain aspects of motherhood. 

1. “The baby doesn’t need a perfect mom, but he/she definitely needs a happy mom. Don’t be too hard on yourself.”

As a perfectionist, I tend to be my own worst critic. As mothers, we need to remember that our kids don’t care if we don’t prepare magazine-worthy dinners or organize pinterest-worthy crafts. They care about spending genuine time with us and forming a strong, healthy relationship. 

2. “You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take time for self-care, prayer, and exercise.” 

Whether you are currently struggling with your newborn waking in the night, teenage attitude, or somewhere in between, all mothers can agree that motherhood requires a lot of patience. It is hard to exercise patience, when your own needs aren’t being met. Remember to take care of yourself so you can take care of your family.

 

3. “Time spent with your kids will never be undone. Dishes, laundry, dusting, vacuuming will all be undone. It’s okay to wait on the chores to prioritize time with your child that you can never undo.” 

One evening, I put the baby down for the night and started cleaning the kitchen. My husband went outside to work on the yard and later came and told me to come out to see the sunset. I told him I would come out when I was done with dishes, but by the time I went outside, the sun had already set. This experience helped me remember that chores can wait. People and experiences are more important and it is important to prioritize those who are important to you so you don’t miss out on making memories, forming bonds, and building relationships. 

4. “Don’t compare yourself or your children to anybody else.” 

My grandma loved the well-known phrase from Theodore Roosevelt, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” The older I get, the more I find this statement to be true. Sometimes other moms may seem to be perfectly put together, while you feel like a slob in desperate need of a shower. Sometimes others’ kids reach milestones earlier than your kids. Sometimes other families appear to always get along with each other and never fight while you feel like a full-time referee. Guess what? All families have struggles. Don’t let comparing yourself to others steal your joy. 

5. “There is no better mom in the world for your children than YOU.” 

Your sweet kids aren’t looking for a mom with the perfect home, flawless post-baby body, or perfect craft activities. Your kids want YOU!  You are enough. You are incredible. You are just what your kids need.

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How to Train your Elephant?

How to Train your Elephant?

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Hi, I’m Regan Barnes from Momivate, and this is your two-minute Mom Tip empowering you to elevate your mothering experience.

I once learned a useful child-rearing trick at a zoo. 

The zookeeper was displaying the elephant’s ability to obey certain commands. Sometimes the elephant wasn’t cooperating, though.

The zookeeper explained: “We just ignore it when the elephant doesn’t cooperate. We don’t punish. Just ignore. Then we repeat the command, in exactly the same tone. When the elephant responds correctly, we praise and reward.”

Now, I don’t want to over-simplify — that can be faulty in and of itself — so I still sometimes give negative consequences to my kiddos. However, I have found the concept of ignoring to be valid overall.

There is power in simply acting as though my child didn’t just scream NO as loudly as an elephant’s trumpet. When I choose not to react, the power of his tantrum deflates. Does that mean he’ll stop right away? Not necessarily. But the encounter will end far better — and sooner — if I don’t get sucked into the violent vortex of high emotion.

Staying calm, pretending my child has not responded, then simply repeating my request in a mild tone, again if necessary. When my child chooses to cooperate, I praise, reward, and sincerely thank that precious child of mine.

I don’t think the elephant gets thanked. I added that part. But I hereby thank the zookeeper for teaching me how to train my little elephants!!

Mom, doing nothing requires intention, ironically. Next time your child is going wild, pretend you don’t notice. Then share if this practice elevates your mothering!

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